Sunday, January 10, 2010

Need some advice on what could be going on with my spouse.?

I have been married for three and a half years, over the past few months my husband has become very unpredictable. He has violent mood swings, he throws stuff, and puts his hands on me and my children. He has never really hurt anyone, but he gets so mad for no reason, I try and talk to him this only frustrates him more. Last night he got so mad he threw the remote at my face and it hit me in my mouth, what could be wrong with him? should I leave?Need some advice on what could be going on with my spouse.?
Could be Bi Polar or Stressed outNeed some advice on what could be going on with my spouse.?
I have a friend that has a wonderful husband. He started drinking too much and became this jealous guy that would throw fits of rage. One night it went to far and he punched in the wall inches from her head. She kicked him him and demanded that he go talk to someone. He did, and now they are doing well. He knows he cant drink the hard stuff anymore, and they have found out that he was very depressed.





Taking a stand and making him change is what you have to do. Once you over look it then it will just start to snowball. You for sure have to leave. It is never ok for her spouse to hit each other. Once it goes to that point then its ok if you let it be. Do you want your kids to see that? Im not saying you can't work it out, but you have to kick him out.





Good luck..





ps.. Love should never hurt...
You've got to be kidding right?


He has gone from bad to worse and you are asking questions and waiting for answers when you and your children are apparently in immediate danger?


Leave and ask questions later.


When your house is on fire, you dont sit and ask why it got so big when it was only a little spark just awhile ago. You get the hell out before someone is hurt or worse.
He could have developed bipolar disorder. Do a few google searches and see if you can't pinpoint what he has, and possible ways of controlling it. I recommend that he get evaluated by a psychiatrist, bipolar disorder is easily controlled with medication. However, if he refuses, I wouldn't stick around, it's not worth endangering your children and yourself.
well, either mid life crisis...he is on drugs or smoking cigs behind your back and he cant do it around you so he is withdraweling and going nuts....or something else is going on deep down inside.. something is bothering him.. maybe at work people are makin fun of him or something that is emotionally getting to him. your lucky he just started doingthis.. my hubby has always been this way
It sounds like he might be on drugs or has developed a drug habit. If this is not the case, there may be a medical reason for it. See your Doctor and explain everything that is going on.
Violence is unacceptable, you need to take your kids and move to a safe place. He needs to be evaluated by professionals to diagnose his problem.
he either is having problems at work or he is seeing another woman on the side and wants out of the marriage. when a man starts seeing someone else, he will treat the wife badly.
You should of had his a.s.s thrown in jail. Why would you not??????
Could he be drugging? Drinking? He is very unhappy about something. Hate to ask but could he be cheating? Temper is an awful thing and it escalates into rage. Each time he puts hands on it will be a little worse than the last time DO NOT allow your children or yourself to be in dangers way. He has hurt you write it down with the date. If it happens again note it. Keep track. Abusers usually hurt you a little more each time and the times get closer and closer together. This has been documented in wife killings. IT starts off and then gets worse and worse. YOU must decide when to leave. Do not leave when you are mad. Think it over very carefully and do not forget anything you want because you will probably have no chance of ever getting it. Start by taking certain things that he will not miss to your parents house. When you have moved everything that you can and are ready to move take the rest. Do not tell him that you are going because this is when they explode in rage and you could be badly hurt. Be sure that you take half of any money that is in the bank. It is yours. I hope that this works out good for you. Do not forget the children's birth certificates.
Your first obligation is to protect your children. You are a mother, and it is your duty to make sure they are safe. I gather they aren't his children? If my husband put his hands on my children, he'd be laying on the floor from a rolling pin hit! 'He's never really hurt anyone' - so what is violent mood swings and throwing things at you classed as then? It's certainly not playing happy families is it? I don't know what's wrong with him and no one else can do that either. You need to do something NOW, not when one of your children or you are in the hospital or out on the street. I would be packing his bags and putting him out, talking to the police and asking their advice about an AVO and telling him when he wishes to work things out peacefully and get some help, you will be there. Until then, tell him you and your children come first. You must let someone in authority know what is happening, so if the violence continues, they will know it's not the first time. Do it now!

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