(long story) I am in the military and work with civilians-military spouse, I cant work there anymore. Advice?

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I am in the military and work in an office with civilians, one of them became my best friend, both of our husbands are in the military and used to work together. A soldier past away down range a couple of month ago, Originally my husband was supposed to be the CAO, wich is the person that takes care of the spouse of the deceased paperwork wise and all that stuff. Anyhow I was in school at the time and my husband could not be on that type of duty because he had the kids with him and that duty requires to be available for 24/7. So my friends husband ended up having to do it. It did not go well the thing got complicated for all source of reasons but it seem like this guy liked being away from work and not doing much, back at his regular job, he always found excuses when asked to do something else. Right from the get go he didnt like where he worked one of the reasons why is because he worked for my husband and this guy outranked my husband by promotion date. He thought it was BS but my husband is been here longer and has proven to desrved the position that he was in at the time while this other guy never showd up for work or reported to my husband when asked to do so. The whole unit is going on block leave for 2 weeks and it was put out by the commander that no one would get more days than that. of course my friend and her husband being difficult as they always are, requested 30 days to go back to the states. It got denied by my husband SGM then this civilian (my friend) when up to the brigade SGM who we happen to work for and complain about the whole team where my husbands work, she said that no one likes her husband that everyone is being unfair to him. the brigade CSM called my hubby's SGM and the civilian confronted him and called him a pice of ****, selfish and all kinds of things and he just had to take it. She also talked about the whole team even my husband and made herself and her husband look like the bigest victims. she lied to CSM and told him that the only reason why she wants to go to the states because it may be the last time her husband sees his dad. I know this is a lie she told CSM that her father in law had cancer stage 3 and would posibly die soon, I know this is a lie because she told me he was alot better and that he was going to go to California and that they would met up there. My grandma died from cancer and there is not way a terminal cancer person would travel from Colorado to California. This was one of the most horrible lies among all. After I heard all that had happened I was kind of angry at her because one she disappointed me, and two I realized that she is that type of person that would do anything and step over anyone even her friends to get what she wants. This whole situation has gotten out of control I cant work with her anymore because im tired of hearing her talking **** about my husbands team and everyone in it. She deals with the units evaluations and she finds any little thing that she can use against them and takes it to CSM because for some reason she is got him on her pocket (she also uses her looks to get what she wants). We don't talk anymore and my desk is right next to her she has made everyone life miserable, including mine even though I had nothing to do with the situation. Today was the bottom line I heard her talking once again talking about this with CSM and i got mad and my son was woth me so i got up my desk and was about to walk outside before i did something stupid CSM notice there was something wrong with me and asked ';whats wrong with you'; and i told him I just neede a break the my ex-friend said ';she just gets offended when I talk about her husband SGM'; then I left, One of my SGTs came to get me later and told me that she complained about me with my other SGT and that she told her ';she did it again, she stormed out of here with her child and disrespected CSM'; the last part was a lie I think if I would have disrespected the Command Sergeant Major he would have put me on my place. The bottom line she is got everyone on her side, everyone believes her and she wont stop. I cant work there any more. One of my SGTs is on my side but not the highest ranking one. She has put everyone she knows against my hubbys team and me. She is one of those people that is very outgoing and people are attracted to her but I know her and I know that in the inside she is an ugly mean person. one time swhe evens said that she was going to get her family to do something to my hubbys SGM because her family were criminals and that she had MY hubbys SGM address. That he didn't know who he was messing with. I dont know what to do I dont care if she gets what she want obviously things are not going to change and she is going to keep messing with peoples paperwork and stuff just because of personal reasons and she will get what she wants. all I want is not to work near her I dont know wha(long story) I am in the military and work with civilians-military spouse, I cant work there anymore. Advice?
Bottom line, you are having a conflict with a co-worker. It doesn't matter that one is civilian and one is military. If you want this situation addressed and (hopefully) stopped, you are going to have to sit down with the person in charge of you both (the CSM, I assume) and lay it out on the table. It will be uncomfortable, but you will need to confront her (with the supervisor) and end this. This is a professional environment and these type of issues, no matter how petty, need to be handled professionally. If nothing productive comes of it, then so be it. But you have to try to handle in a mature matter and follow it through.(long story) I am in the military and work with civilians-military spouse, I cant work there anymore. Advice?
I guess the moral of the story for young men is. Join a combat MOS, no females