Sunday, January 17, 2010

I need Legal advice on what surviving spouses rights are in the State Of Michigan.. Real advice Please!!!?

My husband pasted away in June and we had a prenup agreement.. When it came time for the funeral the family, cops and funeral home kicked me out and I was not allowed to attend the furneral.. Was this a violating of my surviving spousal rights since there was nothing I did that was wrong.. I just wanted our wedding picture in the casket and the family was real upset about it and so the cops and furneal home asked me to leave.. I feel this was totally wrong and I thought I had 1st rights being the survivng spouse!! Do I have a lawsuit against all involved..Also the family kicked me out of the home and will not give me my things, even took my cat... Please Help Me.. I need some good advice here!!I need Legal advice on what surviving spouses rights are in the State Of Michigan.. Real advice Please!!!?
A law called the Uniform Premarital Agreement Act provides legal guidelines for people who wish to make agreements before marriage regarding ownership, management and control of property; property disposition on separation, divorce and death; alimony; wills; and life insurance benefits.


When a couple divorces in some states, each party keeps his or her separate property (so long as it was maintained separately during the marriage and not commingled with marital funds). If the parties have not reached an agreement, the court divides the marital property in the proportion that it deems ';just'; after considering all relevant factors. If you entered the marriage with a house or investment portfolio or an inheritance, and kept title to those assets separate during the marriage, these assets will be considered your separate assets and not subject to division. HOWEVER, the increase in value in those assets during the marriage, as well as any assets purchased with income from your original assets, will be considered marital property and subject to division upon divorce.





Keep in mind as well, that income contributed during the marriage to a retirement plan (such as a 401(k)) would be considered marital property. Further, the increase in value of your retirement account during the marriage is marital property. Consequently, upon divorce, the court could grant your spouse certain rights to your retirement plan account.





A prenuptial agreement allows the engaged couple to alter the definitions of “separate” and “marital” assets in order to protect their assets and control distribution of assets upon death or divorce.





Ok first you need to find a copy of your prenup, second those kids can not just kick you out of the house. You have a right to your stuff. I would call the cops and they will let you in It is the law. Second I would call a lawyer and explain everything, and give him a copy of the prenup and go from there. I wish you the best of luckI need Legal advice on what surviving spouses rights are in the State Of Michigan.. Real advice Please!!!?
OMG! FIrst off, in MOST states, the spouse is the next of kin. I don't know about Michigan but I am positive you can find out. Contact an attorney for legal advise. I


don't know what was in the pre-nup but you need to take that with you when you see the attorney.





I am so sorry for your loss. I don't see how you could have been turned away at the funeral home unless you were causing a scene. Asking to place a photo in the casket was not out of the ordinary.





Contact an attorney. Most offer a free consult and see what your rights are.





Good luck.
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The best advice is go to see an attorney and get him to evaluate your case.
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Wow. Get a damn good lawyer. Spare no money. How callous those people are. Goodluck
I definately encourage you to see a lawyer!!! Good luck to you. Sorry for your loss!! Call the police so you can get into the house and get your things!!!
I'm guessing the cops asked you to leave because everyone was yelling and screaming and the funeral home dialed 911 and when they got there they said who started this and everyone said you did, so they made you leave. Just like any other family dispute, no matter where. So you don't have a lawsuit for the funeral home incident if you showed your ***, they showed their asses and everyone got upset. You don't have any actual damages, what are you going to sue for??





You do have the right to enter your own home, no matter how pissed everyone is, so you can go to the sheriff or police dept and tell them the situation, show proof you have ownership of the property, and ask for a police escort to go get your property. If they refuse, you'll need an attorney to file a civil suit against them for the value of the lost property.

Advice from military spouses?

Well its about that time:) my love and I are getting married.... finally lol





So I'm obbsesed with organization... and just wondering if you have any advice on getting paperwork... and all that wonderful stuff done efficiently and anything i need to do first... like most important... or something that i might forget? Just looking for websites or any advice you all may have:) thanks!Advice from military spouses?
The military is huge on taking care of family members. They have services coming out the ears to help you with everything you need.





The Military is a different type of life style... but it can be a very rewarding one.Advice from military spouses?
Get a will, enroll your kids in DEERS, and have a family care plan. Also, start planning for his deployments NOW!!! You will be in charge of everything. Make sure the finances are covered. Consider all possibilities.





GOOD LUCK!
Jane S has some great advice. All of that stuff needs to be on your to do list.





Are you going to get married in your state or his? What base are you filing paperwork at? If it's not his base then find a website for the base you'll file at and find out where all the offices are.





If he's in a unit have him ask for the ombudsman's contact information. The ombudsman (I think some branches also call them Key Volunteers) is a spouse who has volunteered to help families and the military communicate. She should have a lot of information on what needs to be done and where...at least at your BF's base.





She may be able to get you in contact with the FRG (Family Readiness Group) for your DH's unit too. The FRG is a good way to meet people at your new base. A lot of them maintain information on the web that you might be able to access even before you move. They can get you started off with activities and information you'll need, especially as you get closer to deployment.
Advise I'm giving you is when he's about to deploy but it doesn't hurt to start now. You're going to need powers of attorneys (there are several), id card, enroll you in Tricare,dental, contact numbers, put your info with the command/ombudsman (for spouse meetings), wills (both), know what's on each other's last will so no surprises. Know his family's contact info and his allergies.





Know the access numbers/codes, passwords, permission to speak with a rep from each of these:





Savings, checkings, credit cards, utilities, cell phones, car insurance, bills, debt.





Copies of drivers license and social security cards.


Last but not least, congratulations!
Not sure what you mean? you yourself can join the military as well and get deployed. you two can fight for what you believe in together. that's the way i'd go.

Friday, January 15, 2010

I need advice from navy spouses???????PLEASE!!!!!?

Hello my name is alexis i need some more advice,can you please help me out? My husband wants to join the navy but im kinda scared with the war going on right now.He says he wants the best for us.As a wife how is it having being a navy spouse?is there always fear of something happening to them?Im 20 yrs old and live in California.Im a mother of two boys.I wanted to major in criminal justice and work as a CA correction officer, but if my husband joins the navy i wont be able to due to traviling where ever he is stationed.Do you think if i was to major in nursing as a lvn or rn this would work good for me as a career due to the traveling?I want to have a career too,you never know what if things dont work out.i just dont want to be a housewife.what are the benefits for us?And do any of you have husbands that want to make the navy their career?Is it good pay?He says he wants to be a mechanic or engineer.Im just lost. I dont want to tell him not to go when its something he wants to do. TYI need advice from navy spouses???????PLEASE!!!!!?
leTe him do It. iF you gete LOnly, iLl helP!I need advice from navy spouses???????PLEASE!!!!!?
Hi Alexis,


Your concerns are justified. Navy personnel are often out to sea for 9 months at a time. Having 2 boys is a big responsibility and you will have your hands full with not a lot of support from your husband. However, Navy families provide great support for each other. Pursuing a career is a very wise


idea. There are many online programs that you could work on when you get free time. There will always be a need for RNs. It is very important that you learn why your husband


want to make this drastic move. Is he unable to find


work in the field he is trained? Whatever you do,


make the decison together. Do not let this decision be a


';He wins'; or ';You Win'; decision but rather a ';We Win';


decision. Other alternatives, learn to live on less money.


Move to cheaper housing. Sell your car if it is financed.


For excellent financial advice check out www.daveramsey.com


Best Regards!
While I am not a Navy spouse I am former Navy. A lot of spouses are nurses sicne it gives them the opportunity to move aroudn the country and continue their career regardles sof where they are stationed. The hardest part of being in the Navy will be the 6 month deployments he makes when he is stationed on a ship. On the plus side this gives him a great education as well as the opportunity to expand on it after he is done (whether it is a career or just a single stint). Of all the services I think the Navy would be the safest choice right now since the terrorists do not have an active fleet and they played their one card on the USS Cole and now the navy is prepared for that tactic. Your best bet is to talk with recruiters and also see if you can find others who have been in the Navy and can talk to ytou face to face (both of you) regarding realistic expectations and what it si you guys want to do.





Don't just talk to recruiters and don't just talk to ex military because both have valid points of view and both can help you make your decision.

Has anyones started their own business against their spouses advice or approval?

I would like to be a restaurant/bar owner and/or publish my own cookbook. How should I go about getting this started without having any credit? Would I need to get sponsors or start out of my home? Any suggestions? My spouse wont help.Has anyones started their own business against their spouses advice or approval?
Depends on where you live or how much research you are willing to do. By the way, how much research have you done? This could take up to a year. There are places that give grants/business loans to females. You just have to find them. You have to give them a detailed business plan, such as how much your/their investment is gong to be, the location you choose, taxes, permits, license cost. You are going to have to make sure you can get a liquor license. Do you know anything about running a bar? You have to factor in your loss/gain. It may be a little tricky getting approved for bar/restaurant just for the loss these places take---but that goes with employees, friends wanting free stuff and plus you don't make money your first year. It's do-able, but it takes work. If you don't have a support system that can also be hard. Don't let negativity from anyone keep you from your dreams.





If that is too much to tackle at the moment or you want something to do while you are getting all of this together-then do what Sandra Deen did. She was the ';Bag Lady';. She started sack lunches out of her home and took them places. Or you could make cakes and take them to restaurants or mom and pop places and have them sale them. Make up a few, slice them up, package them, put a business card on them and go to an office strip or a courthouse and give your sliced pieces of cake away-you are bound to get some call backs. Christmas season, people don't have time to bake...BINGO! Make precooked dinners for people who don't have time to cook. There are many ways to do it-you just got to think of plans and put them into action. Advertise when you get something going. Anything you do, you will have to start small.





Good luck to you!!!
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  • Have you followed your spouses advice, even when? ?

    It was kind of dumb? Ive recently discovered Im having a allergic reaction to degree deodorant. Im basically scratching like a monkey. My husband (god love em) suggested I use hand sanitizer to ';help dry it up.'; Well it was like poring acid on a open sore. I swear I saw flames. I kind of knew it was a bad idea but he did say it helped fix his itchy feet. I also trusted him when he told me to put ben-gay on my sore back and hip and then get in the shower. It felt fine in the shower and then I got out. It was one of the worst pain's ever. it was hot and then cold and seemingly never ending. I was lying naked on the couch praying it would end soon. I love my husband but I need to learn to take his advice with a grain of salt. So has anyone else blindly followed their spouses advice?Have you followed your spouses advice, even when? ?
    I gave my husband that spray on band-aid stuff to help his sore throat. I thought it was the herbal remedy I'd used and assured him it would work. I just handed him the wrong bottle. He gagged!


    And we only use BenGay with gloves on!


    As for your deodorant, try the all natural rock mineral, just don't drop it in the sink or it will shatter. Will last forever....mostly. (It kills bacteria so oders don't develop)Have you followed your spouses advice, even when? ?
    Yes i ended burning my car engine, I was putting oil on my transmission, and he said i was pouring the wrong oil, the transmission fluid i had belonged in the engine. He stupefied me so much, that I actually believed it. Poor Car it didn't survive, but he did. LOL.
    I couldn't help but get a giggle out of this, sorry for laughing at your pain but it quite reminded me of a very bad IcyHot incident we had thanks to my husband. Never ever get IcyHot in private places!
    Never took his advice but always made him believe I did. This is my second marriage by the way. It has lasted so far since nine years ! LOL !
    Blindly? No. However, he often has good advice.
    phew i'm not the only one.





    i heard a funny story about ben-gay and camping. apparently boys should wash their hands before peeing in the woods after applying ben-gay. lol
    Of course I have. I only follow it now when I am sure it won't cause me pain.
    Hell no...that is like following Satin into a pizza furnace to get filled.
    LMAO YES!!
    I would do what ever my wife said. she is alot smarter than I
    of course we all do dumb things for love

    Can you give me some advice on how to deal with low self esteem during a divorce after having abusive spouse?

    I have been in a 5 yr marriage to an verbally and physically abusive man that manipulated me by being kind half the time and then being cruel and neglectful the other half.He has called me every dirty name in the book,slu*twh**,fat***,he told me im worthless every day for 5 yrs,he took away my right to money,friends,isolated me from anyone that could help me.now I have anxiety and post trauma and depression as well as many health probs..and a slipped disc in my back because he pushed me...Can you give me some advice on how to deal with low self esteem during a divorce after having abusive spouse?
    Number one you're on the right track, you're getting rid of the jerk. If you are having anxiety attacks by all means see a doctor for help with that one but on your own, keep telling yourself ';I am somebody special because I'm good, kind and getting rid of a huge cancerous burden. I can go where I want and do what I want from now on.';





    Now, repeat after me';I am somebody special because I'm good, kind and getting rid of a huge cancerous burden. I can go where I want and do what I want from now on.';


    And, don't your forget it.Can you give me some advice on how to deal with low self esteem during a divorce after having abusive spouse?
    Therapy will help you work through these issues. You have been through way too much to deal with this on your own.
    What happen with you is happen with me too now.We are same,married with wrong person.But I have 4yrs old son which I must protect from this man.Be strong and it will be over.No one can make you low,just stupid,idiot,jerk and dont have humanity brain man do this.You are important than him.


    Be busy with your hobby and spend your time with friends/family.
    Oh Honey I feel so bad for you-remember everyday how strong you are for leaving that situation! Tell yourself every day that you are a great person and didn't deserve that situation--try to get some short term counseling for you PTSD and anxiety-Good luck to you!This will pass.
    girl it sounds like we lived the same life


    ive been away from mine over 4 years now


    you go girl...but it wont be easy on your own


    I'm SERIOUS...go talk to someone professional


    thats what i had to do after years of denial


    hes the piece of crap for doing what he did to you


    YOU GO GIRL....%26amp; dont ever go back there


    you can IM me or email if ya want...we gotta lot in common
    I never could understand why a man hits a woman with no reason. Don't take this as me patronizing you but; if you would've put your foot in his a** the first time he did that you wouldn't hurt as much. I'm going to assume he is a very scary person when angry. I know that what he did was irrepairable, but you have to forgive him and move on with your life. Not for him, but for yourself.





    Think about this for a second, he talked down to you, hit you and pushed you down a set of stairs, causing you to slip a disc in your back........and you're still here. You've already taken his worst shot and yet God's grace and mercy has allowed you to see another day. In my book you laughed last, trust me he's going to answer for what he did to you, but it's time for you to give your problems to God and let him take control. It might not seem like what he's doing for you is a lot, understand that his job with you isn't done yet.





    I know that you don't trust men too much, but just know that there are MEN out there that only want to love you for who you are. My best advice to you is: whenever you decide to date again don't make the next great guy come along and pay for the mistakes of your ex-husband.
    Get over your panic attacks and go take some exercise classes (kickboxing is great) to help reshape your body, new body you're going to get compliments on, strength and endurance will also help your self esteem.

    Urgent advice need, I am in a situation where I am attending school and my spouse has not been able to find a ?

    job after being fired. I only have 5 months of school left and He is leaving me with no gas in my car no food no phone and past rent unpaid. he called his family to come and get him. I dont know what to do. I have no family and I am in a new area where I dont know anyone...What recourse do I have not to be left with all the debt and no second thought on his part as to what is going to happen to me. I am so scared.Urgent advice need, I am in a situation where I am attending school and my spouse has not been able to find a ?
    Talk to the school some one could know some one that will help you. Have a sale and sale all you can to get some money. food stamps would be nice. Let him know you are not paying his bills. Good luckUrgent advice need, I am in a situation where I am attending school and my spouse has not been able to find a ?
    Talk to the school counselor. He or She may no of low cost living and an on campus job that you can do. Try your best not to quit school once you take that rout you may never go back. Then get your degree and get to were you have family.





    Your spouse I hope can't sleep at night for a long while, leaving like that.
    go to your local welfare office, sometimes whey will give you money if you are attending school, also apply for food stamps
    I have a novel idea- get a job!





    I have no sympathy. Try doing it with a couple kids. Nobody *just* goes to school.