Advice on how to find a GOOD person for a spouse?

What would you do looking back? or what have you done for those of you who were successful?


Any advice on what you should look for, signs to look for?


Is it better to wait out the relationship and see how they are for a while, or hurry up and get married and start growing together knowing you are ';in it for life'; or trying to be that way?





Additional Question: does waiting just build tension and cause people to become different in their demeanor if both people are trying to be sexually abstinent?





say one person is still a virgin, but the other person is willing to wait, ( while doing other things ) would that time increase sexual frustration such that people's behaviors might turn them into angry people or people who are unlike themselves?Advice on how to find a GOOD person for a spouse?
You Should Look For Someone Who Is Willing To Put You First Above All Others Including Himself.


It Takes About Two Years To Get To Really Know Someone.


You Should Save Something Special For Your Honeymoon Night, And Not Give Yourself To Anyone Who Ask. What A Special Gift It Would Be If You Are A Virgin.


Sexual Frustration Is Bull, And Only An Excuse For Selfish People.


Someone Special Is Worthwhile Waiting For, And Is Especially Honorable For A Male To Preserve His Future Wife, That Is The Kind Of Love A Female Should Be Looking For,


If Both Husband And Wife ';Very Rare'; Are Virgins,Then Sex Is Second To Nothing Between The Two. And That Alone Is A Gift To Each Other That Cannot Be Topped.


I Dated My Wife For 2 1/2 Years We Played All Kind Of Other Games, But She Had Her Virginity On Our Wedding Night. If I Would Have Pushed Her Before, She Would Have Given In To Me, But I Felt I Had Someone Very Special And Wanted To Keep Her That Way. She Has Given Me Three Beautiful Children, And Has Been A Great Mother And Wife For 38 Years.


So If Someone Pushes You For Sex Before Time, Just Consider The Gift That You Are Giving Away And Why. It Can Only Be Given Once. I Am No Saint But I Hope This Awakens At Least One Person,Advice on how to find a GOOD person for a spouse?
First, know yourself and you core values, and only date people who share them.


Don't wait for their core values to change, they won't.


Don't hurry up and get married, if you're in it for life, you better be sure what ';it'; is.


If a person is willing to wait, they should be willing to wait and not be angry about it. If it makes them angry, then they really aren't willing are they?
Personally, and please note that I say ';personally';, I think that the whole ';wait for marriage'; thing is completely beyond ridiculous. I mean, a HUGE portion of the hormones that surge through your brain while you are with a person come from INTIMATE closeness. How can you know if they are even close to right for you without that? To me, it is completely against nature itself to ';wait for marriage';. I, personally, couldn't condone it in any way.
Lol, i hear alot from my wife when girls come up and see me. Not because of my physical apperance but how i am as a person. I cook, clean, take care of my wife and our kid.





I think the things to look for in a person are compassion and kindness, and alot of the times you can see that in a person by just sitting back and watching.
They shouldn't get angry about having to wait. There is always rosy palm and her 5 sisters.





I would still marry my hubbie, but I think his drinking attracted me at first, and I could now really do without it. Go for more stable, less party like.





Get to know the person. It can work rushing in though. It depends on the people.
1. Women shouldn't look for men. Men should look for women.


2. Reject anyone who does not fit the criteria that you have set.


3. Reject anyone who is pursuing you while they have someone else.


4. Be patient and keep your legs closed. Sex give a misconception as to the truth of your relationship. You may think you have love when all you have is good sex.
Well, you may fine the good person by observing his attitude, if he is honest, faithful, trusted, and helpful.
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Look for someone with lots of money.
The best advice is to quit looking.......Simply enjoy all people....鈾モ櫏
Well, Sexual pressure and temptation may always be present, Yes. The longer you wait may add stress to the relationship. But, That does not mean that one should give in. It takes a lot of discipline, Something I failed in my youth. Self respect and respect for your partner plus distraction from the thought may help from doing something you may regret later.


Another thing, I've always been told, Make sure the person you commit to love's you more than you love her. Although you may love that person more than life it's self, It's good to know that your spouse love's you as much as you love that person. There are too many one sided relationships out there!


Know your partners heart, Look for good traits in a person. Don't just go for looks alone. Far too many people go down that road and end up miserable.


Peace, Love and Happiness.
Personally, I think that by having sex too quickly in a relationshiip, makes people evaluate their dating partner with their genitals instead of with their brain. I think that it is important to hold off in having sex right away so the Big O does not blind you to some crappy behaviors.





I think that it is important to decide what you want in a spouse. If you date someone who does not personify the characteristics in a spouse, then stop dating that person. I don't mean that you want someone with brown hair, etc. I mean things like someone whose personality meshes with yours; someone who treats you with respect; someone whose core beliefs match yours; etc.





If you are dating someone who doesn't have the characteristics of a good spouse, then don't keep them as a dating partner.





For example, there are so many topics with women posting that their husband looks at porn and it is causing a split in their marriage. Well....didn't they know their bf looked at porn? Probably, because there are plenty of topics with single women saying that their bf looks at porn and it bothers them. If a woman doesn't want a husband who looks at porn, then she shouldn't keep a bf who looks at porn.
I think the best way is to find them in the religion where you go.


Find out their family and how does it interact with each other.


How does this person treat other family members? With kindness and consideration.


Right now all you see is the looks, gee she is cute!


that will not be so cute when she is still screaming at you at 2 AM because the car got a flat tire and you had nothing to do with it.


When sex is all that is going on and after marriage when it gets to be old stuff then you get to know the person and it is to late.





The best way to pick a spouse is to get one who is good to her parents. Has common interests and is your religion.


the farther away from what you are the least likely you will keep her as a marriage partner.


Your religion, your color, similar family's, from a common back ground.


In research those were the ones most likely to stay married.
I wouldn't change anything. I dated much older men in my past. I am currently dating someone 1.5 years older than me and it's wonderful. Without those previous relationships I wouldn't have understood better what I need.





It is definitely better to wait to know someone instead of rushing into marriage and then knowing them.





As far as sexual abstinence goes... I have had MANY friends that decided they wanted to be sexually abstinent until marriage, it never ended well. None of them ended up making it until marriage. Often times they gave it up to a boyfriend who wasn't right for them but they stayed longer because they had given their virginity to that person and that person should be their ';soul mate'; or they got so sick of waiting they lost it to some prick.





that ';while doing other things'; seems to be how they got so horny they gave up on waiting in the first place.