Need advice! my spouse and I were renting a house in a bad neighborhood and needed to move we started?

looking for a new house to rent when my mother said she needed help paying for her house because she had lost her job of 20 years. She has had the house for 18 years and does not want to lose it so offered us to move in with her and split costs. We took her up on the offer because we didn't want her to lose the house but now we are living in HELL. My spouse and I have 4 kids they get up fairly early for school and wake our 2 year old so she is up every morn around 6am. This is also the time my mother chooses to go to bed so we are having to be quiet til 2pm in the afternoon. She also complains on everything the children do wrong (not understanding they are only children) She gets highly angry if the kids accidently break a $3.00 terra cotta planter. Now we are ready to move out but unsure how to break it to my mother and also since she is my mother I hate to cause things where she loses her house. A list of bills are handed to me weeks late with her wanting instant payment. Help!!Need advice! my spouse and I were renting a house in a bad neighborhood and needed to move we started?
Your mom sounds alot like my mom.. You have to think of your marraige. Just explain to her it is time for you and your family to be on your own. If she really dont want to loose the house she will have to make changes. She is a grown women and must be responsable for her choices. Just as each of us are. It sounds like if you dont move you will be hurting YOUR family (husbend and kids). If she loves you (witch im sure she dose) She will get over being mad about you moving out in time. Unfortatly it dont sound like you will be able to make things work living together. So your best answer is to move out.........Good luck......GOD Bless you and your family.


VivianNeed advice! my spouse and I were renting a house in a bad neighborhood and needed to move we started?
You should be honest with your mother. Sit down with her and have a talk. Someone needs to compromise. Why can't she go to bed at normal time? Since you are helping to pay the bills you have as much right to things as she does. Help your mother find a job, then if things cannot change, move out.
Is your mom working nights? Is that what's keeping her up till 6 am? Is she working at all? If she isn't, then she's not doing anything to help herself and you've done all you can. There is no reason you should sacrifice your life to help someone who won't help herself. Tell her that no one, she included, is happy with this arrangement, and you're leaving.
Just move...Your family HAS to come first
When you tell her you are moving, say it in a very positive way. Don't mention her behavior. Say you have finally been able to get on your feet and how much you appreciate her help - go on and on about how grateful you are to her. How can she get mad over that? If she mentions her bills, tell her your sure she will find another job because of her experience and how great a job she did in the past - so on and so on.