Advice to the officers spouse?

If you could give your best and most sincere advice to a spouce of a future Police officer what would it be?Advice to the officers spouse?
Trust but verify!Advice to the officers spouse?
Realize that some officers handle the pressure better than others. If your spouse wishes to talk about his job at home...then listen!





If he doesn't want to talk about it...don't push the issue...and support him!





Be ready to deal with long hours and stress.





Know that the job is a unique position within the community and you both should be proud of what he's doing to make your community a better place to live!
Know *exactly* what you are getting into. He is going to be stressed, he might not want to talk about his day. If you push them about those things, it will only increase his stress.





Also, don't call him 20 times during a shift. I know officer's who have wifes that do that and it really bugs them. An occasional call is fine, but don't bug him all night.





Keep in mind, he will have to work nights, weekends, holidays, unscheduled overtime. A lot of women are okay with that at first, but 5 years down the line, it starts getting to them. It's not fair to the officer if you are bugging him about hours he has no control over. So make sure you are completely okay with him having shift work for the next 20 years.
First and foremost, if you are not a strong person, do not marry a police officer. It is very stressful for their signifigant others. There are many sleepless nights. There are times when they don't want to talk. They, at times can be moody. But just be supporting and loving.
For me, the hardest thing is wondering if my husband will come home at the end of each shift. With that in mind, here are some tips:





1) Easier said than done, but I try not to worry or think about what he may be doing when he is at work.


2) Under NO circumstances should you have a police scanner in your home. Listening to what is going on while he is at work is a whole different ball game than listening to him tell me about it once he is safe at home.


3) Find a hobby to keep yourself busy (especially if he works late/midnight shift).


4) I constantly remind myself how proud I am of him for what he does and make sure he knows too


5) and most important, I ALWAYS kiss him goodbye and tell him I love him before he leaves (especially if I am mad at him or if we've had an argument).





Remember - A police officer's wife has the toughest job on the force !!!
Just love your husband, and know that your life is about to change! As someone already said, some officers can handle the stress, and some officers cannot handle the stress, so it will be depending how he handles things. Being a Police Officers wife you will hear all kinds of stories from other's when you say ';my husband is a police officer';... So be prepared that not everyone will think that is ';good';. I would advise you to read a good book that is on amazon...


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Other than that you will need to be his rock when he comes home from seeing a gruesome murder scene, or a deadly car wreck. He will need you to comfort him, and assure him that you love him. And for god's sakes... DO NOT CALL HIM AT WORK to fuss about TRIVIAL stuff! My Ex. Wife would call and raise all kinds of hell about NOTHING while I was working and it puts ANYONE in a foul mood, and our minds need to stay as SHARP as possible, without alot of problems from home! Call him, tell him that you love him, whatever! but WAIT until the end of his shift to discuss home problems. Anyways I wish you and your husband well, and the best of luck to you both!
You are not going to become above the law just because you are getting married to a police officer. Live by the law.
Stay strong. Police wives are some of the strongest women in the nation if not the world. Know that they do their job to the best of their abilities and that others watch their back on the beat.


Even if it may seem at times the job is more important than the spouse at home, it never is, on the beat and through the day, a spouse and family is on the officer's mind. Thats what gets them through the day, and that's what gets them home when things go sour.
go thru life knowing this is what they want to do, it is admirable, no one gets rich from being a police officer, so they must do it for the ';right reasons'; be aware police officers have a high divorce rate, and are prone to anxiety and depression over time, try to meet these challenges head on before they become a problem.i have family in the police deptment, we treat them as just average joe, we do not ask questions, we do not ask favors, to us he is just our cousin.
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Just look at the answers given and think as to why you would want to be a spouse to some one that is moody, stress and most likely to end up in a divorce