I don't think you can truly understand her feelings and urges. This may very well be an underground deal breaker. You can't look at this logically, or from the viewpoint of having room for more children, or your convenience, it goes very very deep. Just take a very good look round at all the hundreds of new couples with children from previous marriages who ALL decide to have yet another child to cement the relationship.
I think you'll have to give in, or break up.Need advice on a spouse that wants a baby between us, when I brought 3 with me and we have 1 we adopted.?
Yes women have a time limit on having children and some women can't have children at all. Reality is your wife can't have children by her choice when she married you, her decision. If you indulge her every whim , where will it stop. She would be better off getting counseling now or this won't be your last threat with divorce.
She wants a baby of her own between you %26amp;her. You say she's selfish for wanting a baby. You're being selfish here not her. You are only thinking of yourself. You summed in your ending. You have your 3 and don't want to do father things for a new baby. You're lucky she put up with you for this long
it can be such an incredibly strong urge for a woman, like being horny is for a man, but all the time! can you imagine if you had no way to release your feeling?
i think you are the one who is selfish.every women wants their own child...
you will agree to adpot but dont want to give your wife a chance to have her own?duh?
don't get a divorce because of this.. you two need to come to a compromise. you don't need to divorce because she wants one you just lay down the rules that you won't do the diapers or late nights.. she is the one that wants it so she gets to deal with the early years. if she agrees then go for it.. tell her too she has to still help out a ton with the other kids too
Who is being selfish? You say you had the babies , diapers, late nights etc. She hasn't and that is what she wants a baby of her own, she is only 34 and you all so say that money isn't the problem. If she is willing to have 5 kids and wanting to change diapers, late nught feedings crying so be it. You married for better or worse not so you can have your children that don't need diapers or late night feedings. Maybe you shouldn't have married a younger women. Did you really think that she wouldn't want a child of her own? And she was married twice before, with no kids? And I'm sure your adopted daughter wants a little brother or sister. Or are you really upset that she'll have to be inseminated by someone else's sperm? So she is being selfish for wanting a bigger family and her own ( bio) baby.? You are being selfish, and taking her feelings into consideration. EDIT: Vegan he didn't say anthing about reversing his V. He doesn't want any babys, period. Too much work, crying, diapers, late night feedings. Selfish!!!!
That's a tough one. You might luck out though, she's 34 and may not be fertile anymore (if at all.) If she hasn't been fertility tested then you could do that. Your problem might take care of itself if it turns out she can't have children anyway.
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It seems lik the other answerers don't know what a vasectomy is. They're not always or even easily reversible.
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